I wanted to post something today, given it’s meaning of being a day that is ‘labelled’ as Blue Monday. I do this with the intention that this may encourage enquiry, even in some small way, about success and how hard you might be on yourself to achieve your ‘meaning’ of success.
How you’ve adopted personal values from your childhood
Your meaning of success will be unique as this is wrapped up in your value system that you have learned and adopted from childhood. You might not even have awareness of what your values are. I certainly didn’t until I did my Master Practitioner training in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) in Autumn 2021
It’s important to know that your values can actually be harmful to your emotional and mental health without you even being conscious of this.
I know this to be my truth as I’ve been through the affects of this and I’m now aware of what my personal values are and their hierarchy. I can fully see and understand how my values were contributing to my inner conflicts of what success meant to me, which were driving my fearful behaviour and keeping me in a nervous energy.
So I ask you today…
💥 What does success mean to you?
💥 Do you feel successful?
I felt success in my corporate job but when I think about this now, I can see that I wasn’t happy. This clearly didn’t make me feel successful in life!
I often felt inadequate, frustration naturally came as a result of that. This was coming from inside of me without any conscious understanding of why.
I didn’t feel content with where I was, I should have felt joy given the meaning I had given to success – get a good job, earn a good salary, buy a nice house etc…
But all of this wasn’t bringing the peace, happiness or fulfilment that I was craving. I was always working for more, but it was never enough to feel secure and my personal value of security was interlinked with how successful I was.
Why it matters to align your personal values to achieve success.
I had to look inside to really understand what was driving my behaviour. Externally I had success but inside I didn’t feel it.
I had to work on:
💜 changing the meaning I had given to success 💜 my personal value system 💜 re-ordering the hierarchy of my values to align with my aspirations 💜 letting go of the conditioning of the corporate job and work on my own alignment. This is fundamental to achieving my outcome.
I had to do the work to change the fear energy that I was in. This was my BREAKTHROUGH!
This was how I finally managed to identify the root cause from years of carrying tension in my lower back. I found the inner conflict that I had been carrying for years unknowingly and I did the change work needed, to release that!
How I can help you achieve success
Action is necessary to feel motivated and consistent action leads to long term growth and happiness.
✅ I can help you re-write your narrative ✅ I can help you understand your blocks ✅ I can help to change those and re-program this at a subconscious level.
I can help you understand your current values and identify where these are failing you achieving your future outcomes.
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